I have been MIA. Well not really, I’ve been lurking in the background, liking posts here and there but I haven’t really been in the mood to post. I do need to write my surgery post; maybe that will happen today. Recovery has been more mentally hard than physically but that is for another post.
I think I haven’t written because I don’t know what to say. Yes, surgery went well and I should be happy for another chance to carry a child successfully…but I’ve been optimistic in the past and it has gotten me nowhere and nothing more than another hole in my heart. Also, I don’t like the person I am sometimes when I read posts on here. Being totally honest, I am jealous. Jealous. Envious. Angry. Guilty. Why Not Me syndrome is dangerous and I am not proud of it. It is a vicious cycle of longing for what other people have and then feeling guilty for not being able to put aside my longing far away enough to just be genuinely happy for everyone. I don’t always like the version of me that losing my sons has made me into. But I am trying to be better..sometimes that just looks like being numb and knowing that I can’t react or interact. But I miss the outlet that writing is, so I’m slowly making my way back.
faithhopefear 
I’m so glad to see you back on here
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Hugs dear. I think about you a lot. I’m sorry.
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Thank you hunny. That means a lot. 😊
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I feel the same a lot of the time right now. It’s the worst feeling in the world. Sending hugs. We’ll get through this.
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We will 😘
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Totally understandable what you are feeling, and normal too I think! It seems like a lot of people are having success lately and that can be hard, but our time is coming!
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You have every right to feel the way that you do. No matter what those feelings are feel all the feels!! It helps with the healing process! When I gave birth to and subsequently lost my daughter at 18 weeks someone told me that God’s grace is sufficient enough to handle all of my feelings. That really freed me to allow myself to feel what I felt at any given moment and not feel guilty or ashamed about it!! I hope that helps you even just a little bit. And I’ll be praying for you.
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That helps a lot. Thank you sis “feel all the feels” 🙂
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These things can be difficult to write about. Sometimes sorting your feelings out can take awhile. Also, you’re absolutely not a bad person for looking at others and wishing you have what they do. Thinking of you and glad you’re back 🙂
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I’ve missed you too. Glad to see you back here 😊 he is indeed – on serious countdown now!
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GAH! You’re going to have a baby soon!!!
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You’re not a horrible person at all. You’ve been through hell and back and have every right to feel that it’s unfair. It IS unfair and downright shitty. I’m glad to see you back though, and sending you lots of positivity and happy thoughts. You’re strong, you’ll get there. Promise.
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I’ve missed you friend. Baby boy still hanging in???
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I don’t know how helpful or reassuring this will be, but please know you’re not alone. The longing, the why not me, it’s awful. Sending big hugs.
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That helps. It makes me feel like less of a horrible person. Thanks hun 🙂
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