Well occupational health didn’t clear me…
On the drive in to work today, I was feeling, brittle? Fragile? Like I was being held together by the finest of threads. I got to Occ Health and the same nurse who I had seen about a month ago calls me back. Her first question: how is the baby? Now maybe I’m naive but if you saw me a month ago to take me out of work for my pregnancy till July and I show up back to see you in February you can’t reason that something didn’t go as planned?? *cue the waterworks* It went downhill from there because instead of taking my letter from the doctor and signing my paperwork, she had all the questions and kept asking how I felt about this ‘miscarriage’ vs my last one. I was a mess. Halfway through she decided that I needed to wait till I go back to my OB on the 25th as well as needing “mental clearance from a FASAP counsellor as I am clearly recovering from a traumatic issue”.
So that’s where we are; both those appointments are scheduled for the 25th and I’m home and back in bed. I’ll try to ‘adult’ again tomorrow; I’m done for today.
faithhopefear 
Despite the trauma of the meeting. It is good that you have more time off. It is even harder to go through the motions of working and feel like you have to pretend everything is ok.
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I’m so sorry that she said that. I don’t even know how I would have reacted, but it would not have gone well.
Don’t worry about taking more time off, just do what YOU feel that you need to do. We all know ourselves better than any nurse or doctor THINKS they know us.
Take care.
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It’s hard to tell from this if you agree that you need more time or if you felt pressured into this decision after an overly aggressive interaction with the nurse :(. I hope you do what you think is best for you and take as much time as you need. Very few people (much less a stranger!) asked me unprompted to re-live my loss less than two weeks afterwards, and I can’t imagine how traumatic and painful that conversation was for you.
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I honestly don’t know how I felt…I wasn’t ready; but I don’t think I’ll ever be ready so I wanted to get it over with. I think her questions just caught me off guard and I ended up having to share more than I was ready to.
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Aww honey I am sorry. Take care of yourself and take as much time as you need. Hugs!
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Gosh, honey. I’m so sorry. I hate that you need the clearance on the 25th, but maybe this will give you even more Time to heal. Hugs.
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I just found your blog. I’m so sorry for your losses. I can’t imagine how hard it must be for you right now. I can’t believe how insensitive the nurse was. I couldn’t imagine someone *not* crying in this situation. Be kind to yourself. Thinking of you. Hugs
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I’m kind of surprised at how insensitive occ health were to be totally honest. That really was the last thing you needed. What was with all the stupid questions?! I’m glad you’re home and able to decompress a little, but what a shitty day. Thinking of you.
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Big hugs momma. You need to take care of you and even if that means staying in bed all day, it’s ok. You are not alone.
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