Well now we know nothing. 

I had my followup today. Sigh. I thought I was going to be mad and raging and have all the questions. Instead I just said why and then sat there trying not to cry. Hubbins told her everything that happened. She was adequately compassionate and emphasized that everything had looked good. All cultures came back negative so infection was not the culprit. Unfortunately, if the water breaks before viability at 24 weeks there isn’t much to be done. She strongly suggests the abdominal cerclage be placed when we are ready to begin trying again and I will need to consult with MFM for that as she does not perform them. I guess I feel slightly better knowing it wasn’t a missed infection but the fact that it “just happened” isn’t exactly helpful. She has me out of work till the 18th and even then on light duty for a month. 
Today is a better day. I got up. Have eaten. Even smiled a bit at a text exchange with my supervisor. That’s where we are. 

7 thoughts on “Well now we know nothing. 

  1. My MFMs are suggesting a transabdominal cerclage (TAC) for me as well, and I just talked to the surgeon in Chicago (Dr. Haney) last week. I just wanted to share an amazing TAC community that I found where so many moms like us come together. Abbyloopers.org. I have found hope reading the stories about TAC, and I hope you will too when you are ready. Still thinking about you!

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  2. Not knowing the “why” has to be the absolute worst part. I wish things like this were simple and came with a guidebook, that way we knew exactly the kind of things to avoid to make sure that they absolutely do no happen. I was speaking with a coworker today about how insane it is that there are so many things that can go wrong in a pregnancy and it’s quite disheartening and scary. But we know, with God, all things are possible. Love to you, Hun.

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  3. I was thinking about you today, knowing how difficult this appointment would be. I’m relieved that you’ve been taking care of yourself today and I hope that you’ll do so more and more each day. And I’m relieved it wasn’t an infection since that will hopefully be one more affirmation that you did absolutely everything in your power for your son. Lots of love to you today.

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  4. The “why” part is beyond tough. I haven’t found many answers from my OBs. I have a new one who is wonderful at listening and positive but I am still researching and taking supplements on my own. I think there is A LOT doctors don’t know. Or there may be other specialty doctors/complementary medicine that can help.


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